| The lesson of Nauthiz lies in the necessity of dealing with severe constraint. This is a time for examining the limitations that you feel in your life and determining whether they are limitations that you have imposed, or whether they are limitations that you have allowed others to impose on you. This then brings us to the lesson of boundaries and being clear with yourself, first, about what your boundaries are and committing to not letting them waver, and then letting others know what your boundaries are, and not allowing them to push beyond them or convince you to compromise them "just this once." Be willing to look at the shadow self, that part of the self that embodies the qualities that we prefer to not acknowledge or accept about ourselves (and it's important to note that this does not mean "bad" or "evil" qualities or aspects). How do you tend to project those qualities onto others as way of deflecting the need to face them in yourself ? During this period, be willing to look at those things in yourself that cause you to draw into your life those things that are unwanted or unhealthy. it is now time to start imposing limits and boundaries on yourself in order to get those things under control and start to work on changing them in order to draw in what you want and what is healthy. This can be a painful process, because it may mean having to confront some things that you have avoided for a very long time because it might be too painful to face or deal with. It might mean having to cut away relationships and things and situations that you know are not good for you but that you haven't wanted to deal with or hurt by making the cut. Work towards seeing the troubles, denials and setbacks of your life as your guides, teachers and developers. The need for restraint is crucial right now. Remember that dissatisfaction is a catalyst to looking at and changing those things that need to be worked on; it's what drives us to want to change. So embrace dissatisfaction rather than simply whining about, "Why do I feel so unhappy and dissatisfied with myself and my life," but doing nothing about it. Consider the uses of adversity rather than seeing them as insurmountable obstacles. Problems that weigh on the spirit, frustrations, blocks, and constraints can become helpful if properly used. How are you choosing to use your adversities in life ? As excuses or as challenges to change ? This is a time to pay off old debts. |